Creating a Culturally Competent and Brave Space for LGBTQIA+ Folx: Our Vital Role as Therapists
From LGBTQ to LGBTQIA+, homosexual to gay, asexual to ace, the terminology and connotations around LGBTQIA+ language change and evolve. As members of the mental health community, we aim to create safer and more welcoming spaces for our LGBTQIA+ clients. While we've made great strides towards creating a more inclusive and affirming environment for individuals who identify as LGBTQIA+ (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer or Questioning, Intersex, Asexual, and others,) what we must always remember is that there is always room to grow and learn.
Why Using Correct LGBTQIA+ Terminology Matters
Language is inherently fluid. Our culture, personal experiences, sexuality, socioeconomic status, identity, and so much more affects the language we choose to use and the connotations behind it. Language also shapes us. The words we use to describe ourselves and others play a pivotal role in shaping our identities and experiences.
For LGBTQIA+ folx, the use of correct terminology can be validating and create an environment of acceptance. As therapists, it is our responsibility to stay informed about current LGBTQ+ terminology and use it appropriately. Even if we are not part of the community ourselves, it's crucial to the care and well-being of our clients to acknowledge and embrace these terms and cultural nuances. Misusing terms or using outdated language can be incredibly hurtful and invalidating. By taking the time to understand and utilize proper language, therapists can demonstrate respect and acknowledge the importance of LGBTQIA+ individuals' experiences, which is key to providing the mental health care LGBTQIA+ individuals deserve.
Making Space to Learn and Grow
Even though we try our best, we as LGBTQIA+ affirming therapists aren't perfect. We might use the wrong word, or even slip when using pronouns. Instead of glossing over our mistakes or ignoring the winces from our clients, we need to open ourselves to feedback and be willing to learn from our errors.
First, our LGBTQIA+ therapy clients should feel brave enough to call us out.
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"That term doesn't reflect me. Please use '_____' instead." Or, "You keep saying 'xyz.' 'Abc' is the correct terminology."
Clients should never be afraid to speak up or share their thoughts and feelings. It is always okay for clients to voice their concerns or correct any misunderstandings. These conversations allow us as therapists to gain valuable insights into the unique experiences and challenges faced by LGBTQIA+ individuals.
As a therapist, we should acknowledge our mistakes, and embrace them as a learning opportunity. This is a time to learn from our clients and foster that culture of growth and understanding. Our offices (or online offices) should be a safe space for our clients to correct and educate us, build trust, and strengthen that therapeutic alliance. By making space to accept and learn from our mistakes, we send a powerful message that we value our clients' experiences and are committed to providing affirming care.
Ultimately, by embracing these dialogues, we can grow both personally and professionally, enriching our therapeutic practice and world.
Building That Therapeutic Alliance
Trust, empathy, and understanding; that's the core of the therapeutic alliance between a therapist and a client. Especially for LGBTQIA+ individuals, feeling seen and understood is of utmost importance. When we demonstrate a genuine commitment to understanding and respecting LGBTQIA+ terminology and culture, we can establish a stronger therapeutic alliance. As this alliance grows, our clients should feel comfortable expressing their authentic selves, knowing that their identities will be validated and celebrated!
Resources for Staying Updated on LGBTQIA+ Terminology
Keeping up with evolving LGBTQIA+ terminology and cultural developments is a lifelong process. Recognizing this, we as therapists can actively seek out resources to stay informed and educated. Organizations like GLAAD (Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation) provide comprehensive guides and glossaries that can assist therapists in navigating LGBTQIA+ terminology.
Here are a few recommended resources:
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As a therapist providing LGBTQIA+-affirming therapy, I believe it is an absolute must for therapists to understand and respect LGBTQIA+ terminology and culture, regardless of their personal identities. By using the correct terminology, embracing opportunities for growth when we make mistakes, and keeping up to date with LGBTQIA+ terms and culture, we can create a safe and inclusive environment where LGBTQIA+ individuals feel seen, heard, and supported.
Here's my challenge for you, whether you're a therapist or not: Let's all strive to be allies who continuously learn, grow, and celebrate the diversity within the LGBTQIA+ community.
Take care,
Cheryl D. Perry MA LCMHCA NCC
I would like to be clear that this blog post is not intended to substitute for professional counseling. If you are in need of support, please consider speaking to a professional counselor.
