Feeling empowered!

Empowered (according to the Merriam-Webster web site) means to promote the self-actualization or influence of. When was the last time you felt empowered to take control of your life, make positive change in your life, and make better choices for your future? This is a feeling some may not realize they have the power to accomplish or find it difficult to create in their lives because of symptoms of depression, anxiety, or low self-esteem. 

The thought of taking control of our lives can seem overwhelming and maybe even daunting. Where do I start? The first thing you can do is take some time for yourself. In other words, do nothing at first. Relax your mind and body and give yourself what you need. Listen to your own voice. Second, concentrate on others. Sitting with feelings of excessive stress or concentrating on your worries can be disempowering. Focus on strengthening relationships or volunteering to help others in the community. Third, use your inherent talents around your home or to help friends. Organize your closet, home office, etc. Paint your bathroom the color you’ve always wanted and hang new lighting. Feel empowered by flexing your strengths to make improvements or changes in your life. Fourth, move your body by taking a daily walk, run, or bike ride. Exercise raises your good endorphins in a natural way. Be sure you choose an activity you enjoy. This will help the process seem more enjoyable and you will see and/or feel progress before you know it. When you engage in an activity you do well, your confidence is boosted and you feel empowered. Lastly, give yourself a massage by stroking your head, face, shoulders, arms, legs, and feet. A massage is a way to give your body some much needed attention and give you an opportunity to appreciate your body. To love yourself is an empowering feeling.

I hope these steps are helpful and you use them to start a path toward empowerment.

I would like to be clear that this blog post is not intended to substitute for professional counseling. If you are in need of support, please consider speaking to a professional counselor.

Cheryl D. Perry MA LPCA NCC


Cheryl Perry

Licensed Professional Counselor Associate in private practice in Charlotte NC working with individual adults working through symptoms such as stress, anxiety, depression. I also work with adults working to make sense of expected or unexpected life transitions. I also work with LGBTQ+ individuals living with feelings of isolation or simply in need of a safe space to discuss uneasy feelings they have experienced in life.